Raising Children Without Religion May Be A Better Alternative, Suggests New Research. “According to multiple reports, research has shown that secular upbringings may be healthier for children, who, according to a 2010 Duke University study, display less susceptibility to racism and peer pressure, and are ‘less vengeful, less nationalistic, less militaristic, less authoritarian, and more tolerant, on average, than religious adults.’” You don’t say.
I know the blog has kind of had minimal attention lately. The only thing I’ve been consistent with is this TTT series. I’m hoping to get back to more bookish stuff and shop stuff as I get more of the major items ticked off my wedding planning list. Between work, business coaching for work, wedding planning, and trying to actually spend time with my fiancé and have some sort of social life with friends, that hasn’t left a lot of room for anything else. I literally have not touched my craft table since 2015 started (my poor shop). I guess I just wanted to let all of you know that this is not a permanent state of affairs. I feel like the turning point back to normal is within reach. Thanks for sticking with me in the mean time.
You guys know by now that I am a fan of reimaingings – of fairytales, of famous posters or art, that kind of thing. Combine that with my love of books, and you have a new series and passion project over on my design blog: Covers Reimagined, where I’ll be doing my take on new covers for some of my favorite books. First up is a sci-fi classic and it is live as of this morning! You can click here to go check it out.
What kind of passion project have you dabbled in lately?
Dear clients, you get what you pay for. “Clients of the world, if you want loyal freelancers who do their best work for you, who prioritize you, who invest in your work… you need to invest in them. […] Nobody is asking you to pay outrageous, exorbitant fees; nobody is disputing your right to bargain. But if you make a habit of choosing the best deal over the best people, don’t be surprised when you can’t attract the talent you want, when your turnover rate is high, and when your top-choice freelancers are routinely unavailable.” <---- THIS.
How To Hit On Girls In The Club (Or Not). I am not a clubber by any stretch of the imagination, but the takeaways are solid regardless. “Here’s what respecting the curve means: Be cool and leave her alone. You’re not going to talk her into liking you, and you’re making her night shitty for no reason. (If you can’t handle rejection without getting pushy or upset, please don’t talk to girls until you’ve been in therapy for awhile.) And even if she’s been dancing and flirting with you, she still has the right to curve you at any time, including after you’ve left the club.”
Well that’s a whopper of a list for you guys this week. There’s some good stuff there, though, so wade on in.
Aside from (apparently) trolling large swathes of the internet, this past week has been super productive. I started the work with my new business coach and I’m excited about that. Ian and I booked 3 more vendors for our wedding: officiant, music, and photographer, all within the space of 2-3 days. Nuts, but yay! We’re working on figuring out the catering now. We got out first quote yesterday and it was… shocking, to say the least. Like, several thousand more than we’d been expecting. It sent me into a mini panic, to be honest. The 2nd quote I got today was MUCH more reasonable, so I’m thinking that first company was just not a good fit.
AND I have my first appointment to try on wedding dresses this weekend!! EEEEeee! I’m super excited about that.
What’s going on in your world this week? Have you tacked anything daunting lately?
One thing I always hated about English class was how the teacher or professor would over-analyze everything and make the tiniest details into an Important Symbol or Metaphor. I always doubted whether the author was intending or even thinking about that particular association when they were writing the book. I still doubt that, but now my own brain has played a trick on me. Having devoured a good number of books in my lifetime thus far, I’ve noticed that there are certain symbols or things that immediately make me think of a certain book or series. This is never to the depth of meaning that the English types espoused, and isn’t even always the most obvious symbol from a story, or vice versa. But my brain does it nonetheless.
Here are a few of my bookish associations:
A wolf = the Farseer trilogy
A spool of thread = the Pern series
Leather jackets = the Dresden Files
Costume parties = the Kushiel series
A handkerchief, or lace = Pride & Prejudice
An empty beach = the Earthsea series
A dragon = Dealing with Dragons, the first book that made me fall in love with dragons
A knife = the Vlad Taltos series
Coins = the Mistborn series
An ink pot = the Myst series (yes, they are books, too)
A gorgeous library = Beauty & the Beast (ok, this one’s a movie, but I’m still counting it)
People who have read those books/series will get the connections for the most part. But if you look at just the left side of that list (the symbols) you probably have a whole different set of books come to mind. Ain’t subjectivity fun? For whatever reasons, these are the symbol-story combos that resonated with me, and my brain latched on.
I’m sure I’m not the only one this happens to. Do you have any bookish associations that might not be the immediate choice for others?
Throwback Thursday: Pain and Pleasure in Jacqueline Carey’s Kushiel Trilogy. “Sci-fi and fantasy books are often filled with varied, fascinating takes on sexuality. Books that, unless you are, unlike me, wonderfully uninhibited, you may not feel so comfortable recommending to your book club. But at a time when an S&M relationship movie is the fastest-selling R-rated movie ticket ever, I finally feel comfortable talking about a series I have read an absurd number of times: The Kushiel trilogy (Kushiel’s Dart, Kushiel’s Chosen, Kushiel’s Avatar), by Jacqueline Carey.” Yes to this! Love that series.
Does the Science of Science Fiction Matter? “These stories aren’t about technology or science. Science fiction is a mirror held up to humanity… Whether you’re using lasers or robots or space travel, sci-fi is about people, and that’s the only equation that needs to work for the story to come alive.”
Whew, quite a list for you guys today. There’s some good stuff up there, though.
I am up to my eyeballs with work, wedding planning, and my new business classes, so I don’t have a whole lot of life news or gossip. As OMG as the wedding planning is as far as choices and details, I also kind of love it. Apparently there’s a side of me that revels in being an event planner.
What have you thrown yourself wholeheartedly into lately?
This little snugget was allowed up on the couch with me this weekend and I about died from cuteness overload. (Ian was out of town…shhh)
Taking a page from Pip’s book and using this list to do a life snapshot.
Making: plans. And spreadsheets. Wedding planning is no cakewalk, people (ba-dum-ching). Cooking: nothing lately. We’ve been living on frozen meals and take-out. Drinking: french vanilla cappucino. Reading: nothing at the moment. Between work and wedding planning, I haven’t had the mental energy for books. Sad but true. Wanting: to be done with this one project/client. She doesn’t know what she wants, but won’t listen to my advice. Monster headache situation. Looking: at different wedding photographer portfolios. Playing: Myst IV: Revelations. Sort of. I started a game and played for like 5 minutes, but again, no mental energy + puzzle game = nope. Deciding: on SO. MANY. THINGS. for the wedding. I’m trying to prioritize. Like right now the focus is catering and photographer because they book up well in advance. But there’s still a million other little details flying around my brain, too. Wishing: to hear back from a certain potential client about whether their board chose me for a certain amazing year-long project. It’d be a game-changer, career-wise and finance-wise. Cross your fingers for me? Enjoying: this warmer, sunny weather we’ve been having the past few days. Sorry, all you blizzard peeps. Waiting: for potential bridesmaid fabric swatches to arrive in the mail. Liking: the unexpectedly romantic attitude Ian has about our wedding. He’s normally a very pragmatic and frugal person, so I was expecting him to continue in that vein for wedding decisions. But he has surprised me, in a good way. Wondering: how my new business/marketing coaching sessions with will go. I ‘won’ a partial scholarship to a 6-month course, and it starts this afternoon. Eek. Loving: that the ladies I’ve asked to be bridesmaids so far have all been super excited about it. Pondering: doggy manners classes for Sienna so she can be in our wedding. (for real) Considering: different fonts for our save the dates and invites. Watching: Nikita, on Netflix. Hoping: that out of town people still come to the wedding even though it will be on a Sunday. Marvelling: that I get to get married at such an epic place. Did you see that picture up there? That’s in Austin. Not Europe. I know. Needing: to receive some paychecks. Smelling: Sienna. Not in a bad way. She just had a bath yesterday and actually smells good. Wearing: PJs still. I’ll hop in the shower, etc. after finishing this post. Following: and responding to more people on my professional Twitter account in an attempt to grow it. Noticing: that I need to weed the flower beds. Knowing: that I have 8 months to plan this wedding but it will feel like it flies by. Thinking: that this week is going to be rough, work-wise/schedule-wise. Admiring: pretty dresses from last night’s red carpet. Sorting: through ideas for a logo design I’m working on for a client today. Buying: groceries, later today. Getting: a wedding-planning book that was recommended to me from the library today after my volunteer shift. Bookmarking: everything wedding related. And pinnable. Check out my wedding planning board if you’re interested. Disliking: the feeling of just-around-the-corner overwhelm. I think getting this one headache client off my plate will help immensely with that. Opening: the Adobes- Photoshop, Illustrator, InDesign. Just another day at work. Giggling: about some of the links I’ve found for tomorrow’s Trove. You should come back and see. Feeling: tired and a bit stressed, but also overall happy and excited.
Clearly, I have wedding brain going on. What about you? What’s your mental energy devoted to lately?