Uncomfortable Things

Uncomfortable Things

I’m linking up with Jenni today as part of the May blogging challenge. Today’s topic is “Things that make you uncomfortable.” So here are some things that make me squirm or tense.

Dark outside, lights on inside, blinds not closed. In my house, they always get closed as soon as dusk hits. I’ve asked friends to close the blinds/curtains if we’re at their house. It’s not that I consciously think someone outside who I can’t see is watching, it’s more that it could happen. And it could be a stalker. Or a random serial killer. Or just a random person laughing at embarrassing things he witnesses through the un-covered windows. It’s not logical at all. But there you have it.

Slightly off delivery people. Our pizza place has this one lady who is super nice and cheerful, but she has really intense eye contact. Like, almost staring, with eyes widened. Consistently – she’s been the delivery person fairly often. It weirds Ian out as much as me, so it’s not just in my head. A different guy told me I had pretty eyes, which was nice but also sort of creepy.

Small talk. I’m not good at it, chiefly because I don’t care all that much about most of the things that constitute small talk (sports, weather, etc.). But discussing more personal/meaningful things with relative strangers is more uncomfortable, so small talk it is.

Having to go into the Teen Room at the public library because that’s where the YA is shelved. Because it’s not just bookshelves, it’s a kind of hang-out area, and the teens look at you strange if 28-year-old you invades their domain. I will request a book online and have the librarian move it to the Held Books shelf for me (out in the main part of the library), rather than having to venture into that room, even if the book is checked in.

Aveda salons where they’re pushy about the free make-up touch-up, even if you’re only there for a haircut and have made it clear you don’t wear much make-up/their make-up and are not interested.

Talking on the phone. If you aren’t my mom or one of my sisters or Ian if he’s away on a trip, chances are 100% that I don’t want to be on the phone with you. I just don’t like it. I like to have time to consider my response, not be put on the spot. This applies just as much to ordering food over the phone as it does to business calls.

Client relation issues. Whether it’s having to tell them (gently?) that their idea will look terrible, or nagging them about an overdue payment, or similar, I just don’t like to do it. But I will, because it’s my job and livelihood.

Really awkward TV shows/movies. The ones where the character is doing something really, really embarrassing or awkward? Yeah, I can’t watch those. I will literally leave the room or stop watching the show entirely. I tried to start watching the show Felicity on Netflix the other week, and I only made it partway through ep 3. I just couldn’t do it. It stresses me out.

Having to sit directly beside someone I don’t know in a movie theater or on a plane. Especially when they hog the armrest.

Revealing/explaining to people outside the blogging world that I have a blog. Oh, this one. So awkward and uncomfortable making.

Geckos. I’m fine if they stay outside. If one comes inside, I make Ian catch it and take it back out. But if it scurries somewhere where we can’t find it? Oh hell no. Not cool, gecko. Don’t blame me if Sienna eats you later (good dog).

That’s all I can think of right now. I’m sure there’s plenty more. Ian would probably have a dozen more things he could think of about me. Maybe I’ll ask him and do a follow-up. 🙂

How about you? What makes you uncomfortable?



  1. Small Talk is definitely an issue for me. I have troubles making conversation with random people. Since I don’t know them.. I don’t really care which makes it harder for me to care about their thoughts on something mundane. I’m trying to get better at it since I run a business and it’s helpful to create new connections. It’s a big struggle for me.

    I re-watched felicity last summer and it was so painfully awkward and felt like they made college life seem so dramatic. I mean I had issues but it seemed like Felicity had problems over and over again. Also, I was really disappointed with the ending.

    1. Yeah, same here – since I don’t know them, I don’t really care, and that makes small-talk-type conversation hard.

      Also, Felicity didn’t seem all that self-aware/bright – most of her awkward situations could’ve EASILY been avoided, which just made it worse.

  2. I relate to so many of these!! Small talk is the worst and I am the worst at it. Awkward tv makes me want to crawl under the blanket. I hate it. And I HATE talking on the phone, especially making appointments or to ask a question about something. I will try any other method of communicating first.

    1. Oh yeah, I always try other communication methods before the phone. Even with my clients, if it can be done through email, that’s how I’m going to do it.

  3. Definitely with you on telling people about blogging! I get weird looks all the time. I told one guy at my office and he was all like, “Oh, well that’s… interesting…” Erm, thanks, asshole! lol

    1. Haha! I think most people still associate ‘blogging’ with Myspace-like teen diaries. The one I get a lot, especially with older folks who aren’t computer/internet savvy, is a blank look followed by ‘what is blogging?’

  4. I also get a bit uncomfortable about phone calls. In particular, I get nervous if I have to call somebody. What if I ring while they’re busy? What if I’m bothering them? Realistically I know that they could just tell me if they’re tied up, but I still get anxious. I will almost always text somebody before I call them, just to make sure it’s O.K.

    I’m also with you on the awkward T.V shows and movies. I had to switch off Meet The Parents halfway through because I just couldn’t stand to watch the poor guy’s discomfort any more. It killed me that I knew that things were only going to get worse, and he kept doing the stupidest things to exacerbate the situation.

    1. I know what you mean! It’s bad enough when my phone rings and I don’t recognize the number. But if I have to call someone? Yeck. I always hope it goes to voicemail.

  5. Good topic and it got me thinking. My most uncomfortable situation is arriving someplace by myself when most people there are in couples. I hate, hate, hate walking in by myself. Another uncomfortable situation that occurs when you get older is to remeet someone you knew maybe twenty years or more ago. If you haven’t seen them in twenty years, do you really want to talk to them now?

    1. Oh, yeah, it’s weird re-meeting someone you haven’t seen in awhile. My 10-year HS reunion was awkward and uncomfortable.

      You reminded me of another one. I hate when you’re meeting someone/a group out somewhere, like a restaurant, and you’re the first person there and the others are running late, and you have to either awkwardly sit at a table by yourself or wait outside and it’s just uncomfortable either way. Drives me nuts.

  6. Ugh, I’m SO with you on the phone one!! There are a small handful of people who I’m okay with talking to on the phone, but I’d much rather text or e-mail most people for sure. My husband always laughs at me, because I pace when I talk to anyone else; it’s just so uncomfortable!

    Also, yes to explaining blogging to non-bloggers. I can’t even handle when someone outside of my family asks me about blogging. Most people in “real life” don’t even know I blog, just because I don’t want to have to talk about it.

    1. Almost everyone has said ‘ditto’ on the phone thing, haha. I guess bloggers are just not fans of phone talking. I don’t pace, but I do fidget. I *much* prefer email, too.

      It’s so awkward, isn’t it?! Either they become WAY more curious than you want them to, or they have no idea what blogging is, and once you explain they think you’re weird.

  7. HA!!! I make sure I place holds too at the library……….mostly because we have a DRIVE THRU PICK UP!!!!!!

    1. What?! I’m jealous!! Our library has a drive-thru drop-off, but I’ve never heard of a drive-thru pick-up! I want!